ME a relationship Guru?

Its kinda weird but I recently noticed that many of my frens started coming to me for relationship advice..hehe Not to say that I'm an expert but I do have an interest in relationship stuff and always love reading about it (Books like Women from venus and Men are from Mars). That's where most of my poems are inspired from.. But I guess most of them came to me, more for a listening ear rather than advice..Why? I dunno maybe because I never break the carnal rule to listening which is not to share what you have just heard unless the person involved allow you to do so..

I had plenty of practice with my sisters..heehe i have kept lots of their secrets..So mayb that y it is like second nature to me to keep secrets and ppl feel safe as they know that what they are about to tell me will stay with me..

But lately, few of my frens had came to me with well, wat else but problems with their guys..And this was days after Valentine's day..I dun get why do guys these days do not know how to appreciate what they have and what do they actually want from their partners... I'm not here to judge but I feel like we are in the 21st century not in ancient times where men is always right..Ladies should stand up for themselves and made known of their unhappiness instead of keeping quiet...

Sometime I feel that couples nowadays really lack in communication..

I will sometimes ask my frens, what do they normally talk about with their partners when they go out..And the shocking answers is nothing much, talk abt the movie that they juz watch and wat to eat for dinner[This is a typical date in S'pore if u guys dunno]. I find that is so hard to believe because to me, conversation is key in a relationship if not, then how do u let the other party know how u are feeling..

That's y I always advise my frens who are facing relationship problems to talk it out and not to sugarcoat things..If u are not happy with something small, tell him/her immediately cause if you keep it to yourselves, that little unhappiness will grow to hate and that is how relationship fails..If u tell him/her at least they'll know the problem and try to change..OR worst case scenario, u tell him/her abt it and he/she still refuse to change, then at least u can say that you have given them a chance but it's still not working out..But if you both keep quiet and without knowing how each other is feeling and the relationship break down, u will somehow feel as if u are not given the chance to know why it failed and if there's something that you could have done to save it..

I also always believe that you should not stop being friends just because you guys are together..Being friends, allow u to tease each other without hurting each other feelings..Have u ever noticed how u might started out teasing/flirting with each other as friends and as soon as you guys become a couple, the teasing stops cause nobody ever bothers to make an effort any more..

So that is kinda my advice to my friends whenever they are talking abt their relationship problems but of course not all relationship is the same but they are definitely similar..

So just say you are angry when u are angry and keep flirting/teasing each other even though you are already a couple and maybe just maybe you'll built something to last ;)

Delaila here signing off ;)