One of the Best Date of my life ;)

I just realised that after you have been out there dating for a while, things will get a bit routine and well soon all the standards that you have set for yourself have seem to drop cause you no longer expect it to happen. I have always made the effort of doing different things on my dates but it should be a two-way street, I can't always be the one deciding what we should be doing on the weekends. And I definitely hate conversations which goes like this:

Me: so what's the plan for this weekend?
Guy: Hmm me anything..What you want to do?
Me: I thought you are asking me out so you should have something planned.
Guy: Hmm no plans leh..not sure what u want to do..
Me[Feeling pissed off]: Ok..Thanks for the effort put in planning the date..but I have to wash my hair during the weekend.
Guy: huh??wash hair need both weekend?(not realising that I'm pissed off)
Me: Arrgg!!
Guy: Why are u so angry? having PMS?

I immediately put down the phone without even bothering to answer his idiotic questions.

Yes, that's right this conversation happened to me before and till today he still don't get why am I so pissed off. Is it so hard for men to shower a bit of attention to the ladies?

In a guys' mind(derived from the dates I've been to ;)) the equation of good dates goes like this:

Dates = Dinner + Movie(if action/sci-fi movie, even better)

In a girls' mind(for me at least)

Dates = Good conversation + effort in making me feel special + plenty of sincerity

Guys always associate dates with dinners and movies or if they are feeling a bit romantic, chocolate/flowers are thrown into the equation. But for the girls, they just want to have good conversation and wants to feel special no matter if the date just turn out to be a nearby visit to starbucks ;)(This happens to me before too)

And this leads me back to memory lane where I had one of the best dates in my life ;)
This happens in secondary school which just shows that best dates in life doesn't have to be expensive

I used to be such a bookworm in secondary sch and I love reading so much(Yes, that was when I'm in my nerdy phase which is still ongoing), so this guy whom I was going out with planned this really special date for our anniversary. He wouldn't tell me what we'll be doing so I just thought it will be another dinner & movie date. But to my surprise, he brought me to Borders and asked me to pick any book I like. I was so surprised because it was so unexpected. I still have that book cause looking at it always bring back good memories.(Its one of those buffy the vampire slayer book cause at that time i'm a big fan of buffy too ;P) He then brought me to his house and told me that his mom has prepared a meal for us on his request(I guess he didn't know how to cook but i'm still impressed by the way). And after a good meal, we just spend the whole day at his house reading, with me laying my head on his lap reading my new buffy book and him reading his Archie comics. I remember feeling completely special and blissful even though we were not talking at all the whole time just enjoying the companiable silence, hearing the sound of his breathing and his occasional laughter.

Yup, that was one of the best dates I have experienced. I know it might sound really boring to some of you but to me, this boy is willing to put in extra effort just to do things that he know I will enjoy the most. And I really appreciate him for that cause by giving me that experience, it taught me that dates doesn't not have to be expensive or just be about movies and dinners. Its the thoughts and sincerity that counts ;)

Obsessive addiction

To make matters clear, the poem below is not about me..I don't get why people always assume that the poems I wrote is derived from my life :) So sorry to disappoint but I truly have a boring but blissful life, not that inspiring at all ;p

Ok, back to the topic, the poem was actually inspired by this song by Ashanti called "The way that I love you" hence the title of my poem. Yup, I do get inspired by random things like songs ;) What I like about the song is the way it showcase how obsessive love could be. Love is not just about the roses but it is about the thorns too and that is the reality of life.

In a relationship, there is no way that both parties could love each other equally the same way but they could love each othe equally in their own way.

I have some guys friends who asked me "why does girls always need verbal assurance that they are being loved. Doesn't action speak louder than words"

I told them that I completely agree with what they are saying(which seem to shock them, I'm not so sure why hehe) But I explained to them that it is the same way that guys always need physical assurance that they are being loved which we girls don't really get.

My friends and I had this discussion some time back. How do we know that we are in love? and I mean in love with someone not falling in love with someone which is completely another different topic.

After a long discussion, we realised that we know that we are in love with someone when we willingly do things that we won't normally do without any complaints and that we rather spend time with that person instead of doing the things we love. That is also how we will know that our other half is in love with us ;) And yes, love is all about sacrifice.

Sometimes we can't help it but do things that we know will make that someone happy. It is in our nature to care and in our nature to adapt.

But knowing this doesn't mean that we have to completely change ourselves to suit our partner..Changes which will make us be a better person is one of the best things that can happen in a relationship. But if you change into someone that you are not that is completely wrong..If your life revolve around your partner all the time and you don't know how to live without him/her around, I'm sorry to say my friend, that is not love. That is what known to me as an obsessive addiction.

Obsessive addiction happens when you completely lose yourself to make someone happy. You get so scared of that person leaving you that you forget that you have your own life to lead and it is a trap that will sink you deeper and deeper till you look at yourself in the mirror and you couldn't recognise that person anymore.

So go on, fall completely in love with someone and don't hold back but do not fall into the trap of obsessive addiction.





Delaila here signing off, over and out ;)

The way that I love you

will you miss me
the way that I miss you each time you are not there

will you see my face
the way that I always see yours before I lay myself to sleep

will you look back at all the memories and smile
the way that I do when I'm thinking of you

will you ever love me the same way that I love you