Ok, back to the topic, the poem was actually inspired by this song by Ashanti called "The way that I love you" hence the title of my poem. Yup, I do get inspired by random things like songs ;) What I like about the song is the way it showcase how obsessive love could be. Love is not just about the roses but it is about the thorns too and that is the reality of life.
In a relationship, there is no way that both parties could love each other equally the same way but they could love each othe equally in their own way.
I have some guys friends who asked me "why does girls always need verbal assurance that they are being loved. Doesn't action speak louder than words"
I told them that I completely agree with what they are saying(which seem to shock them, I'm not so sure why hehe) But I explained to them that it is the same way that guys always need physical assurance that they are being loved which we girls don't really get.
My friends and I had this discussion some time back. How do we know that we are in love? and I mean in love with someone not falling in love with someone which is completely another different topic.
After a long discussion, we realised that we know that we are in love with someone when we willingly do things that we won't normally do without any complaints and that we rather spend time with that person instead of doing the things we love. That is also how we will know that our other half is in love with us ;) And yes, love is all about sacrifice.
Sometimes we can't help it but do things that we know will make that someone happy. It is in our nature to care and in our nature to adapt.
But knowing this doesn't mean that we have to completely change ourselves to suit our partner..Changes which will make us be a better person is one of the best things that can happen in a relationship. But if you change into someone that you are not that is completely wrong..If your life revolve around your partner all the time and you don't know how to live without him/her around, I'm sorry to say my friend, that is not love. That is what known to me as an obsessive addiction.
Obsessive addiction happens when you completely lose yourself to make someone happy. You get so scared of that person leaving you that you forget that you have your own life to lead and it is a trap that will sink you deeper and deeper till you look at yourself in the mirror and you couldn't recognise that person anymore.
So go on, fall completely in love with someone and don't hold back but do not fall into the trap of obsessive addiction.
Delaila here signing off, over and out ;)
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